If you are a parent or an elder sibling of a teenager then you have my empathies. I know, because I also have to deal with a snobby teenage sister and an equally snooty nephew in his pre-teens. However, we can’t entirely blame the teenagers for their behavior, because during the age group of 12-19, these adolescents undergo a metamorphosis process, generally termed as ‘Puberty’. In this stage, the adolescents go through a remarkable change in their physical and emotional state. This is why many teenagers are not easy to deal with. But there are certain ways that you can adopt to handle them, which I have listed below:
- Implement house rules that are clear and consistent yet not suffocating for the adolescent. It’s much better if all the family members have to follow the same rules.
- Stay calm in an argument. Remember that you are the elder one.
- Don’t have high expectations that are difficult to fulfill.
- Do no treat the adolescent as a kid. It will annoy him or her.
- Have positive and friendly conversations from time to time.
- Keep evaluating the behavior and check if there is any adverse change. However, don’t be overly suspicious.
- Since teenagers are more influenced by their friends, than by their parents or any family members, make sure you know their friends by inviting them over once in a while.
- Teenagers are very self-conscious of their appearance. They keep experimenting with different looks and hairstyles that will suit them. Try to praise them for their efforts.
- Don’t get annoyed of their shrugs or monosyllabic replies. Instead, allow conversations that will help them open up.
- Punishing and getting frustrated is not an answer. Try to be patient, come up with other ways like having a pleasant conversation, while explaining the lessons of life.
- Try to understand the young adult. Their way of communication might be different, but they are not always wrong.
Teenage years are very vulnerable. Being the elder one, you have to take charge and help the adolescents at every stage for shaping their bright future.